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Unnie Life Lessons: Signs of Adulting by My First First Love

When does the line blur between being a young adult and becoming a full-fledged grown-up? Do we draw the line at making sacrifices and taking more responsibilities? Or do we simply reflect on our lives one mundane day, and just know that things are not how they used to be…?🍃

Running away from home, meeting new people, and fighting for what you want in life, My First First Love is a rite of passage for five people getting their first taste of adulthood. This has been one of the more lighthearted kdramas I’ve watched this year. It had its heavier moments, especially with our main characters’ family and lovelife problems, but the overall storytelling and tone of the show was fun and easygoing.

Check out my ending recap post for this kdrama and if you’re interested in starting this show, please read my first impressions post 😊

Unnie Life Lessons

1. Setting boundaries between you and your loved one because you need to. Whether you’re feeling upset, awkward, or just need space from them, it’s okay if the time apart clears your thoughts and offers you clarity.

  • Asking for space shows that you’re mature enough to know that spending more time with a person you’re not comfortable with, no matter what the reason and despite how close you are, is unhealthy. It’s hard to be apart from someone we care about, like Tae O to Song Yi, but he knew that they needed it so he could figure out his feelings for her and not inflict any more pain to their respective partners. Doing the right thing is so hard to do😅
  • I know that his statement kind of defeated the purpose because he accompanied Song Yi on a trip to see her mom not too long but I’m certain that if Do Hyun was with her at that time, he would have backed off.

2. Rejecting a career opportunity because it can hurt other people and you want to make it on your own.

  • Hoon’s father set him up to get a role in an upcoming musical. He refused the offer because he knows that someone who worked hard and legitimately passed the audition will be replaced by him. He expressed his concern that he had already commited such an act (Telling Ga Rin’s family where to find her in exchange for money) and it didn’t make him feel happy at all.

  • Hoon could have accepted the offer and never look back — let’s be honest, if he could swallow the guilt of someone else losing their job because of him, then by all means. But if you can’t do it due to your pride, fear of karma, or because you’ve experienced this yourself, don’t waver with your choice👊🏻
  • I can’t argue that it’s the right thing to do because if you’re already desperate, then choosing to forego such a chance may seem stupid. But I believe that wanting to carve your own path through your own merit will surely amount to something. Choosing not to step on anyone makes you a person with integrity –and that’s not a bad thing.

3. Knowing that people can let you down but you assess the situation well enough to have thoughts other than just getting angry.

  • Call it thinking positive or having a soft heart but I believe that growing up means being able to sort out your emotions and know that you can feel conflicting emotions even in lousy circumstances. Song Yi was still glad to see her mom despite having every right to feel just enraged at her for living a life with another man and leaving her by herself in Seoul.
  • There is no excuse for Song Yi’s mom abandoning her but I think she understood a little bit of what her mom was going through. It would be easier for her to just spite her mom but admitting that she felt relieved and listened to Tae O’s comments without protest is a sign of maturity.

4. When you need to set free someone you care about because staying with them doesn’t feel right anymore.

  • At first, I didn’t understand what Do Hyun meant when he talked about love’s depth and direction. I realized that it means even if you care for someone dearly (Song Yi to Do Hyun), but their care and attention is directed at someone else most of the time (Song Yi to Tae O), then something is not right. I know that Do Hyun is not accusing Song Yi of cheating or anything, I think he just accepted the fact that Tae O was the one who Song Yi truly loved.
  • Letting someone go without any bitterness is also a very grown-up thing to do because if someone we care about hurts us deeply, it’s only natural that we feel upset or angry. Do Hyun realized something good out of his experience and realized that there’s more to life than just studying and working hard but that he wants to have dreams and goals too. It’s not easy admitting your insecurities but embracing these and making an effort to improve is a pursuit to one’s own happiness.

I think that being an adult is a continuous learning process that will bring about fields of great days, cold winters of problems and uncertainty, and warm comforting moments. Like the natural changes in seasons, our dispositions and responsibilities in life will simply occur and change overtime.

Although we can’t pinpoint the exact day or moment where we fully mature, My First First Love sets up a lovely picture of a time in one’s life where we can experience such changes — it’s beautiful, exciting, and messy…but everything has a purpose🌷

Unnie Recap: My First First Love 2 Ending

The wait is over! Netflix’s pre-produced kdrama, My First First Love, is back with its 2nd season as it ties up loose ends and neatly wraps up our gang’s current and yet to be explored chapters. I’ll be tackling the show’s love triangle as well (You know how much I love drama😜) and the series final moments.

Before I get to it, I just want to praise this kdrama’s cinematography because the scenes are so colorfully serene. I don’t know if there’s a term for this but it’s like a filter was used in filming which highlighted the setting’s colors. It gave a warm and pleasant feeling that made watching this show such a lighthearted treat💕 You’ll know what I mean when you watch the show!

Read my previous post about My First First Love‘s 1st season to get to know more about this kdrama’s plot and characters.

Let’s Catch Up!

Previously, Tae O and the gang went on a trip to unwind and get away from the city. He caught Do Hyun and Song Yi kissing near the pool and was shocked about their secret relationship. This season, he struggles to deal with his feelings for Song Yi while also managing the backlash he receives from Se Hyeon, the girl he is currently dating. Do Hyun and Song Yi are still happily together but as the episodes progress, we see glimpses of Song Yi’s attention habitually leaning to Tae O and Do Hyun’s increasing jealousy over their closeness.

Hoon ends up ratting out Ga Rin (because she ran away from home) to get a huge sum of money but he realizes his mistake and apologizes to her. He is still struggling to get a role as a musical theater actor but still pushes on with his goals. Ga Rin finds comfort in meeting other people and attends hobby workshops to fill up her time. She and Hoon eventually fall in love and get into a relationship.

My First Love Triangle

If you read my post about the show’s 1st season, you’d know that my heart went to Tae O over Do Hyun and my choice hasn’t changed. I stand by the notion that it’s almost impossible to just be friends with a person of the opposite sex because I think it’s natural to get attracted if you spend a considerable amount of time with them. With Song Yi and Tae O, their 20 year best friend relationship was bound to cross some lines. It was always Tae O from the get go who was more aware of his feelings for Song Yi. He knew her so well and would do anything for her that I couldn’t see anyone else as a better fit for her.

Do Hyun was a strong contender as well, don’t get me wrong, because his relationship with Song Yi was so naturally developed. They gradually got to know each other through mutual attraction and developed romantic feelings for one another. There was this particular scene in season 1 where he was honest enough to tell her that he was not rich or can do so many things for her but that if she’ll have him, he’ll strive to work hard and provide a happy life for her. That was such a realistic and fair disclosure that it made me root for Do Hyun because he was laying his pride on the line. Both men proved that their feelings were sincere that no matter who she ended up with, I think I’d be able to accept it😢 

For Song Yi, it was clear that she only had feelings for Do Hyun in season 1. Although I interpreted her discomfort over Tae O’s girlfriend as a mix of jealousy and concern; (because she really wasn’t great) but since Song Yi tried to get along with her and went on dates with Do Hyun, I thought it was nothing more but a warranted best friend concern.

It was only in My First First Love 2 that she started to show some not so friendly feelings for Tae O. Although subtle and subdued, the cracks first started to show when he accompanied her on a trip to see her mom who ran away sometime ago. Song Yi also found out a family secret that Tae O’s dad and his stepmom had been hiding all this time that it made her completely distraught. Her unwavering stance to be the one who needed to share such news and be with him, despite Do Hyun’s arguments, was another indication that her care for Tae O was so uniquely special — it had to be of a romantic caliber already.

Who does Song Yi end up with?

Usually you can tell who the leading man or woman will end up with based from the show’s promotional poster alone but I’m still waiting for a few korean dramas that can surprise me. So without further ado, Song yi ended up with…

I can’t believe that a kdrama love triangle FINALLY gave me the very pair that I was rooting for!❤️ Song Yi even mentioned in the previous season that at some point she thinks she was attracted to Tae O but she told Do Hyun that the timing has passed. But I suppose significant events in both of their lives stirred something in her to see him in a different light.

For Song Yi, there was no big confession nor did she have an epiphany scene. I think she was unaware that she had such feelings for Tae O that it was through her actions that reflected how much she thinks about him. I did think that it’s because their friendship ran so deep that major moments such as finding your runaway mom (For Song Yi) and discovering that your own mom is still alive after all these years (For Tae O) will surely elicit a burst of emotions. But as voiced out by both Do Hyun and Se Hyeon, they could still have shared that moment with someone else. At least for Song Yi’s case, she could have assured Do Hyun that despite being the only one who can accompany Tae O to see his mom, that he should trust her and that the trip won’t affect their relationship. But as pointed out by Hoon, it’s apparent that Tae O was her top priority.

Do Hyun was dealing with family financial problems that time that’s why he wasn’t able to accompany her but what if he did and it wasn’t Tae O who was there for her? Wouldn’t her feelings for Tae O stay buried? What if he admitted to Song Yi that he was having a hard time too, would she have chosen him over Tae O? I guess we’ll never really know but perhaps despite those instances, Song Yi and Tae O will still be drawn to each other. 

I think because Tae O and Song Yi’s relationship was so effortless and connected that Do Hyun finally realized that he had to let her go. He was trying too hard in the end to keep their relationship intact, even risking getting fired from his part time job. It was a bittersweet moment when they had to part ways but he also set himself free and gave himself a chance to start fresh.

The Future Looks Bright

Ga Rin was able to start a shared space business where people could hold events or workshops in a building that she owned. Tae O’s friends who started a multimedia company also rented there. Hun became a successful children’s musical actor as the character Flash. It was so satisfying to see him tear up seeing his mom be there for his show and that even if his dad wasn’t there, there’s that feeling of assurance that his career choice in his life will be eventually accepted. Do Hyun had to move out of Seoul with his dad to resolve their financial problem but looks well and content. Tae O is communicating with his mom again and Song Yi has moved in together with her mom as well.

We got a few snippets of Tae O and Song Yi’s status as they went on dates and how their rapport had changed from being just friends to being in a relationship. Sometimes I admit I’m unsure if she really likes Tae O because of her character’s personality; she gives out reserved smiles and is not as affectionate.

I loved the fact that the show addressed this concern of mine when she admitted to Tae O that she truly likes him but that she hasn’t processed all of it yet. I guess it’s because she’s always regarded them as just friends; now that she’s feeling giddy and excited about being his official girlfriend, she’s not sure how to express herself yet. The important thing is that they both know what they truly feel for each other now and that their bond will only grow stronger.

As our gang experienced their share of firsts in making tough choices, finding themselves, and dealing with heartbreaks, they move forward with their lives with the hope that everything will turn out for the best. No matter what happens, I am confident that they will overcome any obstacle thrown at them because they have each other — in their past, present, and their loving future together✨

Unnie Recommends: My First First Love

Ahhh, young, adolescent, love ❤️ The cool and refreshing wind of innocence filling your days with hope and wonder as the smell of new beginnings and (mis) fortunes wrap your thoughts with a sunshine state of mind. Remember the feeling that everything was ahead of you, you just have to walk the path, but nobody told you that taking a detour or obstacles can get in your way?

Netflix’s pre-produced kdrama, My First First Love (Also known as “Because it’s my First Love”), offers viewers with a walk down memory lane of a time in our lives where our curiosity and senses were heightened to explore and make our mark in the world.

Current Impression

We meet our gang altogether at the end of the 1st episode, eager to meet with the series lead, Yun Tae Oh (Played by Ji Soo), as he is the common friend of the four individuals. Due to their personal circumstances sans Do Hyun (the single guy in the picture below), they end up living at Tae Oh’s house. Currently 23 years old and in college, Tae Oh’s friends’ will soon find themselves entangled with each other.

From left to right, the trio in the image above are:

1. Hoon – He was kicked out of his home because his dad had enough of him trying out for musicals and pursuing singing. He goes to auditions and vows to show his parents that he’ll make something of himself someday.

2. Song Yi – Long haired girl in the middle, is Tae Oh’s best friend from high school who is homeless now because her house was seized and her MIA mom wasn’t able to help her out. She is best friends with Tae Oh and develops a crush on Do Hyun. They go to the same school together where she studies architecture.

3. Ga Rin – Wearing the red hoodie, she is a childhood friend of Tae Oh who ran away from her strict and sheltered lifestyle. She follows Hoon in his auditions hoping to learn something from him.

Rounding up the whole gang is:

4. Do Hyun – Goes to the same college witth Tae Oh and is studying to become a civil servant someday. He meets Song Yi in another way (Not thru Tae Oh) and even if he is uninterested in girls, he finds himself falling for her.

5. Tae Oh – Last but not the least, the cheerful, Mr. Congeniality, and glue of the group — Tae Oh is living the bachelor life (not anymore though😜) at his grandfather’s house. He just wants to bring a girl home but complications get in the way of his plans.

Tae Oh had feelings for Song Yi when they were in highschool but the latter did not feel the same for him. There’s the classic love triangle plot here and I’d like to say that it’s cliché and predictable, and yes, the story seems to be pushing Song Yi and Do Hyun together BUT you never know! To be young (er) and have the first signs of heart fluttering, stolen glances, and eventual confessions of the fragile heart — My First First Love presents the details and care of first love in a light yet heartwarming tone❤️ Still rooting for Tae Oh to end up with the girl (As of this writing, I’m only on episode 5).

A story about firsts, friendship, and growing up, My First First Love is a is a slice of life korean drama that comforts our forever young souls but prepares us for the harsher but still fun stage of adulthood. Netflix has released all 8 episodes already so binge watch this if you can!😁